1. Write yourself down. 3 pages every morning. Don’t edit, judge, or share. Instead just write yourself down each day. Write about what’s on your mind, what made you smile or cry, or what you had for breakfast. Write about your crazy dream, pet peeves, or anything you want. It doesn’t matter where the commas go, or if your words seem unreasonable, harsh, silly, or angry. Just keep writing down your heart. The daily writing helps you notice how you feel, who you are, when you are lost, and when you are found.
2. Spend time with people who lift you up. Spend time with people who will love you for you. Spend less time with people who won’t. Choosing to spend less time with people who sabotage your happiness doesn’t mean you can’t take time to lift people who can’t lift themselves. Give your change, a smile, a sandwich, or a few volunteer hours to people who don’t know how to surround themselves with people who lift them. You’ll be surprised at how they lift you too. Love your people so much and don’t forget to let them love you back.
3. Stop proving yourself. You don’t need to prove how good you are at your job by doing more and acting like someone who isn’t. Thanks to simplicity, you can tap into the quiet and came back to love.
4. Let go of the excess. Keep releasing the excess, the extra, and the stuff that doesn’t mean anything to you. Give yourself all the space, time and love you need to remember who you are. For awhile, this might mean saying no more than you say yes. It might mean letting people down, spending more time alone, or admitting weakness and asking for help. Take all the time you need because once you get back to you, you’ll be able to give in ways you never imagined.
5. Put your hands on your heart. Create a daily heart listening ritual. Start by sitting quietly for a few minutes with your hands on your heart, and your eyes closed. Listen. You may not hear anything at first, but if you keep showing up your heart will reveal answers you’ve been waiting for. Keep a journal nearby so you can write down your heart’s words. Your heart knows who you are — now you just need a little time to know your heart.
6. Be a gentle warrior. A gentle warrior is loving and kind. A gentle warrior is also fiercely protective when it comes to the nonnegotiables that allow her to live a happy, healthy, meaningful life. You can be both. Creating rules or guidelines for how you live and work helps you thrive.
7. Do what’s best for you. Find great inspiration and guidance from hearing other people’s stories, talking to friends, and listening to advice. but when you want to know what’s best for you, put youry hands on your heart and turn to the person who knows you best. The more you remember and connect with who you are, the more you will trust yourself to know what’s best for you. Your heart knows. Forgetting who you are and living outside of yourself, outside of your heart is exhausting. Do whatever it takes to come back and be more you.
you are loved. on quiet days that feel meaningless, during long nights when loneliness consumes you, when you’re reminiscing and grieving the past, on good days that feel like warmth and light, always remember that you are loved.
You’re not weak, you’re tired because you have been trying so hard when you are already so overwhelmed. You’re not lazy, you’re sick and burned out. You’re not giving up on yourself when you take a break to rest. You’re not unproductive or useless because you are not like other people. You are not a projection of other’s’ desires. Try projecting your own needs outwardly, communicate when you need help and prioritize your own comfort, your rest, your recovery.
Oscar Wilde, De Profundis // @i-wrotethisforme // Jorge Louis Berges // @smokeinsilence //@viridianmasquerade //Jorge Louis Berges // @honeytuesday // Kaveh Akbar // F. Scott Fitzgerald // AKR //Olivie Blake, from βAlone With You in the Etherβ // Kaveh Akbar, Pilgrimage
medyo shookt pa ako kasi nag-message bigla si lot sakin kung kelan daw ako available for simple catch-up with them since last december pa huli naming bonding pero di ako prepared na farewell catch-up pala ang magaganap. aalis na siya sa july 1 going to indonesia maybe as teacher din? kahit daw siya nabigla kasi unexpected! then si chin and tin din ata planning na for canada. Si chin (one of my close friends din) parang anytime soon pwede na siya kunin ng ate niya, then si tin magaayos na rin ng papers. Si kat naman (college bff) nasa US na. Medyo napapaisip tuloy ako if i-push ko next year? uwu but anyway I’m happy for us kasi grabe dati parang naka-jansport lang kami tapos inaasar na mga minions kasi magkaka-height lang kami, but now going international na mga mamsh ko. proud ako sainyo! 😭
If you know, you know β super random lang nagsscroll ako sa camera roll ko then nakita ko βto. alam ko hindi lang kami yung tropa na ganito every after kainan. natutuwa lang ako tignan kami kasi kahit masama loob namin (ni sam emz) ganito na kami like from paotsin to subic? hahaha. saka nagtataka ako bakit 2k yung sakin? medyo nahiya ako sa katabi ko lol or pinahawak lang sakin? hahaha. tho not sure kung sa food lang ba βto or overall gastos na namin sa subic. nalilito na ba lahat?
there are so many facets of me that are more important than my appearance or desirability. i have a large capacity for understanding and curiosity. i want to learn and connect with people and that is a beautiful thing :-)
you’re going to love again, find a job again, create art again, do what you love again, feel powerful again. you’re going to be back on track. i don’t know when, but you are going to feel like yourself again, eventually. this isn’t the end. hang in there.
you’re improving. you’re recovering. i know it takes a whole lot of mental effort to fight your thoughts everyday but eventually it will get easier. it will become a habit, i promise.
